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A ridiculous rant - why am I so angry?

December 20th, 2012 at 11:50 pm

I know this is ridiculous. I have a great life, somewhat balanced (doesn't look like it today:-))
For some crazy reason I am really pissed at my colleagues. I've worked like a dog this year, harder than most. Yet this year I did not get one single holiday gift. Nothing from my suppliers, my bosses, of which I have three. Nothing from the company I have been assigned to help. Nada. In the '80's we were always comped with gifts and cash. I know things have changed. But not one thing this year. And I gave out gifts and cards too. But what really makes me mad is this anger and bitterness I feel. Really? Even though I am financially secure, employed, and loved? So I'm mad at myself. I can't figure out if I expected to be thanked in the form of a gift. Is it because I feel entitled, or am I just materialistic, or what? Last year the gifts flowed. Any input would be appreciated. I'm not usually whacked out. But today I am!

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6 Responses to “A ridiculous rant - why am I so angry?”

  1. creditcardfree Says:
    December 21st, 2012 at 01:14 am 1356052461
    1356052461

    You must be feeling unappreciated for the hard work you have done. You probably are not getting the positive feedback you need on a regular basis, and on some level may have been hoping it would be shown at this time of year. We all want to be acknowledged, but of course you need to know within you that have done a great job and be satisfied that that is enough. We need to know we are enough within ourselves, otherwise we can't really know peace. A bit deep...but I hope it helps!

  2. MonkeyMama Says:
    December 21st, 2012 at 01:41 am 1356054085
    1356054085

    Totally agreed with ccfree - my guess is that you feel unappreciated.

  3. FrugalTexan75 Says:
    December 21st, 2012 at 03:44 am 1356061489
    1356061489

    I can imagine it would feel pretty bad to not get *anything* when the expectation has been set in years past that appreciation for your efforts would be shown through gifts/cash/etc. Is it just you not receiving anything? Or is it across the board?

    Either way, I agree with CCF and MM about your feelings being related to not feeling appreciated.

  4. CB in the City Says:
    December 21st, 2012 at 02:10 pm 1356099058
    1356099058

    I think you are feeling hurt, because you gave gifts and were expecting some reciprocity. But I doubt that anyone meant to hurt you. People are just cutting back, being more careful with their money. A sure antidote to your misery -- tell someone (from the heart) how much you appreciate them!

  5. wowitsawonderfullife Says:
    December 22nd, 2012 at 02:19 am 1356142782
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    Thanks for all of the great feedback. Today I was approached by a senior exec who thanked me from the heart for the outstanding work and contribution I've made this year. That meant more to me than any gift. CB, I'm going to tell someone how much I appreciate them tomorrow.

  6. Jerry Says:
    December 24th, 2012 at 01:23 pm 1356355382
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    I think it is probably feeling unappreciated, but it also leads to frustration with what the lack of holiday presents represents. Like you mentioned, having someone express thanks and appreciation is the root for all of the gifts anyway, and the executive who thanked you offered you some insurance that you are, indeed, needed and your efforts are not unnoticed. I think that cutting back is part of it, but it isn't about the money at the end of the day. It's about the thought and appreciation.
    Jerry

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